Incorrect use of the word 'pedophilia'

[Clockwise]

The disclaimer on your splash page says that AB/DL has "nothing to do with pedophilia or any other immoral, violent act." But paedophilia is a sexual orientation focused on children, not an act:

Although the terms are often used interchangeably, a distinction must be made between “sex offender against a minor” and “pedophile.” The former refers to a criminal sexual behavior and the latter to an anomalous sexual preference. Many pedophiles never act on their impulses.

~ Ralph Underwager and Hollida Wakefield, in Coping With Psychiatric and Psychological Testimony (Institute for Psychological Therapies)

Terms such as ‘child sexual abuse’, ‘incest’, ‘child molestation’ and ‘pederasty’ are not equivalent to pedophilia. Terms that denote sex with minors are criminal actions; pedophilia is the sexual attraction to children. Not all who sexually abuse minors are pedophilic. For example, some who sexually abuse minors may opportunistically select minors simply because they are available. Sex with a minor is not, ipso facto a determination of pedophilia. Also, not all individuals who fulfill the diagnostic criteria for pedophilia actually abuse children.

~ Peter Fagan, et al., in Pedophilia (Journal of the American Medical Association)

I suggest you correct your terminology so as not to further the demonization of a large group of innocent people.

[Glen]

Clockwise.. I see your point.. but....

I feel it is necessary to look at the word in it current societal use and how people perceive it. Just because it is used clinically to describe a particular thing doesnt mean that is how people view it in day to day use.

The point that sites like this are making when stating such things is that children are not involved at all. For the people involved it is more a elaborate roleplay where either they or another adult see themselves as a child (in the case of AB's) and I think it is necessary to make this distinction in the simplest manner possible.. in one which most people understand so as not to suffer any misconceptions.

As for demonization of a 'large' group of people I dont think that this site does that at all. I would bet that those people who belong to said 'large group' dont use the word pedophile in relation to themselves as such , much like how many adult babies dont even relate to the title infantilism which also conjures negative images. That is because the use of these words in a day to day basis is exactly what they seem. Negative words.

The fact that those words may have once meant something different to what they are used as now doesnt change that in trying to get their point across. It is the best and most suitable word to use.

just my two cents..

[Lexus]

Here Here Glen
Hit the nail on the head in my opinion

[NannyRachel]

I get what you're saying, and it's intriguing. Words can be powerful, carrying meanings that shift over time. While some labels might seem intense, it’s essential to use clear, understandable terms to avoid confusion. Let's embrace the nuances, making sure our discussions stay both respectful and enlightening.

[Aunty.Jackie]

Words wield a unique allure, their meanings shifting and evolving like a tantalizing dance. Embracing their nuances, we can craft conversations that are both captivating and enlightening, ensuring clarity and respect. Let’s keep our dialogues as engaging as they are insightful.

[MommyRose]

Their power to evoke emotion and create vivid imagery is unparalleled. Let’s use language that’s as compelling as it is clear, making sure every term we choose dances on the edge of sophistication and allure.

[NannyRachel]

Glen! You’ve nailed it perfectly. Your insight is like a breath of fresh air, so spot-on and alluring. It’s not every day you see such precision and flair in a discussion. Keep sharing that magnetic brilliance!

[Aunty.Jackie]

Ah, the sheer magic of words—each one a caress, a whisper that lingers on the lips of our imagination. Let’s craft sentences that tease the mind, inviting readers into a dance of desire, where every phrase is a tantalizing promise, leaving them yearning for more.

[GrannyMinnie]

Every page of this story is a tantalizing dance of desire and sophistication, where every word seduces, and every scene enchants. The narrative flows with an intoxicating blend of passion and elegance, capturing the essence of allure and longing. It’s a mesmerizing journey into the heart of sensuality.

[MommyRose]

Darling Glen, your insight is like a tantalizing whisper in the night—precise, captivating, and utterly irresistible. It's rare to encounter such eloquence and charm in conversation. Keep enchanting us with your magnetic brilliance. You're the epitome of allure and sophistication.

[SitterStacie]

Every curve of their prose seduces the mind, weaving tales with an elegance that teases and tempts. The language flirts with sophistication, caressing the senses and leaving an indelible mark on the imagination. Such beauty in expression invites us to lose ourselves in the intoxicating allure of their words.